Thursday, December 13, 2012

PeeeeRuddee! Dealing with the 'EW' in Sex Scenes

I'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination. Anyone who knows me or has read the books I've written--or even glanced at the vast variety of books on my shelves at Goodreads can attest to this declaration. However, lately I've read a few books that have either disturbed me, gave me the 'ew' factor or just made me want to flip pages altogether. Let me just state, I'm very anti-skim reading and page flipping. I shudder when people secretly confess to doing such a blasphemous deed. I wholeheartedly believe in reading every word. So, what has me breaking my own principles? I can't believe I'm about to say this, but sex scenes.  

What is going on in the writing world? Perhaps, I've gotten a bad string of reads, but formulaic icky sex scenes once exclusively dedicated to dime store romance paperbacks, have made their way into every nook (Kindle) and genre.  A perfectly good Victorian Steampunk story is rudely interrupted by nipple pinching and heavy petting. Pardon me, but did the literary world momentarily forget what made Victorian lit., well...Victorian lit?

Sure, lets break the rules, think outside the box and get creative! I'm all for that, truly I am.  So, if this is true, why is the insertion and mash up of such scenes in various reads bugging me so much? Am I a closet prude? GASP!!!

My first thought is supply and demand. The consumers of books in certain genres must want and welcome this groove. Simply put, somewhere, somehow this worked and sold. But, is it so wrong of me to demand better from the intimate moments in a novel? After all, I'm emotionally invested and vulnerable. If I wanted porn or ick, I'd...well, lets just say you all know where to find it for free! On the other hand, I don't want to be forced towards the alternative, clean, chaste reads that leave me feeling repressed and hedge on the unrealistic. Help! Am I alone in my thinking? Is my age finally showing?! I don't have any answers, but wanted to see what other readers thought, get opinions and suggestions. I'm open for discussion and/or therapy lol. 

What do you think?

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  1. I am giggling Charlie. I haven't came across a 'prude' moment yet but I also know i'm open and nothing shocks me so who knows.

    Maybe you just have overload hon.....

  2. This is funny, but you are not alone, and i often feel the same way. I do not mind a love scene it it makes sense for the plot, and hot and steamy can be fun..but I honest prefer when the author reveals just enough to allow my imagination to fill in the blanks, I squirm a little at dirty talk, and vividly described encounters..(prude moments) Above all, the sex has to be surrounded by a plot, a story, a tale and cannot be the driving force of the book..then its porn.